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The Roar of Your Relationships                 

Pastor Phil Derstine 3-10-24  


Report from Haiti“Life moves at the speed of relationships” – Pastor Benite Jeune

  • Proverbs 19:17 “Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and He will reward them for what they have


  • Proverbs 18:24 "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer

  than a brother."


7 Biblical "Be" Attitudes for Relationships (Wisdom from Proverbs) 


  1. Be Loving - Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
  • Love takes giving! (3 Levels)
  1. Comfort Level - “If it’s convenient, fun, rewarding, affordable...”
  2. Sacrificial - Requires giving up something, but with tendency to “keep score,” compare, etc.
  3. Faith Level - Based on obedience to the WORD, What would Jesus do? (Lay down His life!)


  1. Be Consistent - Proverbs 20:6 "Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?
  • Galatians 5:22 "Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering…"
  • I Corinthians 13:4 - “Love suffereth long” 


  1. Be Forgiving - Proverbs 17:9He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter      separates close friends.”
  • True test of forgiveness: if you can stop talking about the offense
  • God forgives & forgets


  1. Be Confidential - Proverbs 11:13 “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”
  • A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become, and still gently invites you to grow!"


  1. Be Sharpening - Proverbs 27:17As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.”
  • You have a "Quickening Spirit" - Ephesians 2:1-5; I Corinthians 15:45, Romans 8:11
  • Let the Holy Spirit in YOU rub off on others!


  1. Be Sensitive - Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body."
  • "Spiritually Sensitive" to the needs of others 
  • Treat people with dignity!


  1. Be Honest - Proverbs 3:3,4 "Let not mercy and truth forsake thee… So shalt thou find favor and good understanding      in the sight of God and man."
  • Speak positive words by FAITH
  • I Corinthians 13:4-7 "Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all thigs, endures all things."
  • John 13:34 A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. (35) By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”