The Roar of Your Relationships

The Roar of Your Relationships                 

Pastor Phil Derstine 3-10-24  

Report from Haiti – “Life moves at the speed of relationships” – Pastor Benite Jeune

• Proverbs 19:17 “Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and He will reward them for what they have

 done.”

• Proverbs 18:24 "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer

  than a brother."

7 Biblical "Be" Attitudes for Relationships (Wisdom from Proverbs) 

1. Be Loving - Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

• Love takes giving! (3 Levels)

3. Comfort Level - “If it’s convenient, fun, rewarding, affordable...”
4. Sacrificial - Requires giving up something, but with tendency to “keep score,” compare, etc.
5. Faith Level - Based on obedience to the WORD, What would Jesus do? (Lay down His life!)

2. Be Consistent - Proverbs 20:6 "Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?

• Galatians 5:22 "Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering…"

• I Corinthians 13:4 - “Love suffereth long” 

3. Be Forgiving - Proverbs 17:9 “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter      separates close friends.”

• True test of forgiveness: if you can stop talking about the offense

• God forgives & forgets

4. Be Confidential - Proverbs 11:13 “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

• A friend is someone who knows you as you are, understands where you've been, accepts who you've become, and still gently invites you to grow!"

5. Be Sharpening - Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.”

• You have a "Quickening Spirit" - Ephesians 2:1-5; I Corinthians 15:45, Romans 8:11
• Let the Holy Spirit in YOU rub off on others!

6. Be Sensitive - Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body."

• "Spiritually Sensitive" to the needs of others 

• Treat people with dignity!

7. Be Honest - Proverbs 3:3,4 "Let not mercy and truth forsake thee… So shalt thou find favor and good understanding      in the sight of God and man."

• Speak positive words by FAITH

• I Corinthians 13:4-7 "Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all thigs, endures all things."

• John 13:34 “A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. (35) By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”